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Growing Old Ungracefully - an effect of the US youth culture
"It might be a superficial impression, but I think American women fight to look younger instead of staying in good shape. European women are more tricky in that they try to grow older better, but they don't try to look younger. Here (US), there is a cult for youth". (Catherine Deneuve, Time Out, March 26th).
The two photos (above) show Deneuve and Cher at approximately the same age (early fifties). There's no doubt that the European actress is the woman with the grace and charm. So strong is the influence of the youth culture here, that the clothing ads feature young teenagers modelling cloths for the late twenties to mid-thirties market. A year or so ago, the New York City buses were forced to remove clothing ads on the grounds that they verged on child pornography. It is not uncommon here to see professional women walking around in mini skirts and tight fitting tops that would seem more suitable on someone twenty years younger, and then only at a late night party. Polanski, apartments and cinema verité
In Polanski's 1976 film, "The Tenant", a Polish immigrant in Paris
takes the apartment of a woman, (played by Isabelle Adjani) who hasn't quite committed suicide. When I saw the film in Melbourne, I saw it as a horror fantasy. Now that I'm in New York, I realize it is cinema verité. The New York Times (19th April) reported the increasing phenomenon of people, so desperate to get an apartment on the cheap, that they'll hang around funerals, look up police homicide blotters, and search the death notices. All this in order to find the grieving relative who may get them an "in" on the now empty, perhaps even blood-stained, apartment. Charles LeDuff commented (New York Times 19th April), "Usually a scavenger will wait till the carrion is cold, but the Gotham buzzard is a different breed". On January 6th I commented on The Case of The Missing Tenants. The missing tenants are still missing, feared dead. Although some people have been keeping a vigil outside their apartment, worried about the fate of the two tenants, other less sensitive souls are pestering the landlord asking if they can rent the apartment. And you don't want to look ill or frail here. Apparently people bang on the doors of old people, trying to find out if they are dead yet. This sort of behaviour is so taken for granted, that it has even filtered into New York based comedy. The latest Seinfeld (April 30th, NBC) had Elaine losing her Manhattan 212 area code phone number, and considering killing the guy from the phone company who installed her line. Eventually, after waiting vulture-like, she manages to obtain the sort-after 212 number when a neighbour, an elderly grandmother dies. Mayor Guiliani might be able to force civility through legislation, but can he stop the greed and insensitivity? I don't THINK so! The British and the Bagelites
It seems that Mayor Guiliani's civility campaign is making news everywhere. A friend faxed me some pages from the English magazine, The Spectator (April 18th), where the New York City civility campaign is analyzed in typical Spectator manner.Spectator's columnist Taki, sees New York as suffering from an egalitarianism, where the problem is that there are no "superiors" to set appropriate codes of behaviour. The problem, according to Taki, is that money "c'est tout" here, and that the city which he (she?) calls the "Big Bagel" is full of greedy people. Well, I'm not sure about that. It is true that money rules here, and sure, New Yorkers can't last a minute without their bagels. But I very much doubt whether having a class of "superiors" to ape is helpful in creating a well-mannered society. And who are these "superiors" that presumably London has, but New York has not? I assume that Taki is referring to the British aristocracy. In New York speak, I just have to comment, "Pleeeeeease!". Come on! Come on! Please please meSometimes it's like living in a cracked sixties Beatle album here. The use of the phrase "Come on!" And the comment "Pleeeease!" are heard everywhere lately. Both are used as expressions of scornful disapproval. An example.There has been of late, "elevator discussion" in our apartment building. It is all about the doormen's new uniforms. In an attempt to ape the upper-crust apartment blocks of Park Avenue, the owners of our building have renovated the lobby and organised new uniforms for the doormen. They used to be bare-headed, but now all the doormen have little caps and look like doormen in those old black and white Bogart movies. Suddenly the tenants are pro-doormen. Usually they are just annoyed by the doormen. But now it seems from the mecca of social interaction - the elevator - that everyone feels for the doormen, and the new uniforms are the subject of much New York style discussion. The fact that there is any discussion at all is amazing in itself. Usually all you get is a nod of acknowledgment. If you're lucky. But now the elevators are alive with the sound of human voices. The "dialogue" is much the same on every elevator ride, however. It goes something like this: "Did you see the poor doormen's hats? Pleeeease!" "It must be so annoying. Hats! Come on!" "I asked one of them and he said he hated the hat. A hat? Pleeeeease!! Come on!" "Do they think it makes it look like a hotel? Pleeeeease!" The only piece of relief from this seemingly endlessly repeating conversation this week was when one of the apartment building supervisors was in the elevator, and asked me whether Paul Hogan ate live rattlesnakes. Come on! Your Questions and CommentsPhilip, an Australian recently returned home from New York emailed: I just read your reply to the Italian girl trying to chase down the Aussie. I've just left NY but during my time there I was a member of the American Australian Association which met monthly (until recently at the Australian consulate but not sure where now). While this association was primarily for 'corporate' types, their monthly drinks were more low keyed and I met quite a few 'normal' Aussies there who enjoyed a drink - anyone trying to track down Aussies in NY could try giving them a call as they publish a list of all members and put out a monthly newsletter where adds can be placed.Thanks, Philip. I believe the regular Happy Hour still takes place at the American Australian Association. We have a link to their newsletter on our Organisations page. The problem I've found is that details of "upcoming" events in the American Australian Association newsletter are often posted after the event. The day before ANZAC Day, for example, I looked as I'd heard from a friend that there was a service and celebration at the Rockefeller Center. But there was nothing mentioned that I could see, either in their newsletter or on their web page. I didn't realise there was a list of members, though. That could be helpful. I've passed your message on to the "Italian Girl in Love". Guy, an Australian living in Manhattan emailed: Did anything happen regarding the Italian girl in love? Did she find her man? I have not heard if she found him. The last I heard she was on the trail but had not got to him. She found his name and some other information. I am confident true love will find a way. For readers who are wondering what this is all about, check last week's Comments Section Mandy, an American wrote: [re my expat article] You can't expect to get to know people here unless you go to clubs, and people aren't going to let you visit them here as people in NYC don't ask people home; after all they could be axe-murderers. You are just meant to go out and meet different people at clubs and things. Also you can put any number you like on your speed dial, you don't have to just have the Chinese place on it. Yes Mandy, I know I can program any number into my phone but there's no point just putting numbers in. I was making the point that there is no one really to call. As far as the axe-murderer comment goes, I don't think that's the reason that people don't ask people to drop by. I think it is a cultural thing and I don't think the fact that I've only been in four Americans' homes is anything to do with me possibly being an axe-murderer. Reminder Date: May 13 1998 Location: Ballroom of the Roosevelt Hotel, on Madison Ave. at 45th St. Event: "Taste of Down Under," an Australian wine and food tasting to benefit the Muscular Dystrophy Association. The event features a wide selection of Australian wines as well as Australian lamb dishes prepared by chefs from some of New York's leading restaurants. The money is raised through ticket sales and via the auction of items ranging from round-trip tickets to Australia to designer clothing. Tickets are $100, of which 50% is tax-deductible. Those interested in ordering tickets should contact Jennifer Marraccino at the Muscular Dystrophy Association on 212-689-9040. |